Get that raise: 3 expert tips to negotiate like a boss

If the idea of discussing salary with your manager makes you squirm, you’re not alone. A new survey by SEEK of Australian workers aged 18 to 64 found that while two-thirds (66%) nominate salary as the most important reason they go to work, an incredible 75% have never asked for a pay rise.

This is despite the fact that one in three (29%) believe they’re underpaid and one in two (51%) believe an employer will never offer staff more money unless they ask for it.

Sabina Read, SEEK’s Resident Psychologist, says that for most people money is a loaded topic.

How to work with someone you don’t like

Is there someone at work that you just can’t get along with? Chances are you have a personality clash.

But while it might feel frustrating, you’re not resigned to butting heads, or being best friends, either—there are ways to get along and get the job done. SEEK’s Resident Psychologist provides advice on how to do just that.  

Sixty percent of Australians have had a bad experience working with someone who has a different personality to them, SEEK research reveals. This can arise from having different ways of getting things done, dealing with conflict in different ways, and communication issues.

The untold benefits of being a young adult living at home

It was perhaps when my parents – who also happen to be my housemates – left to go travelling for a couple months recently that it dawned on me why I had not yet left the family home.

It wasn’t that I relied on them for logistical reasons, or to keep my life in order, or to ease the chaos of the home. These days, I rely on them for their company.

I missed coming home and talking about my day at work, I missed being able to read their faces and sense how their day was. I missed having unique insight into the minutiae of their days, or being privy to the mundane, tiny details that make a life.


Four killer takeaways when you’re tossing up a career change

“I think I want to be a psychologist, but I don’t want to listen to people’s problems all day!”

According to my mum, these were the seemingly contradictory words I uttered as a 17-year-old, nearing the completion of Year 12, and contemplating life outside of the school gates. Fast-forward 30 years and I am indeed a psychologist, but like many of us, my career path has been far from linear.

While my teenage musings may appear contrary to the typical expectations we have of the ‘helping’ profession, I realise now, that even at age 17, I was tapping into my values and strengths, potent ingredients in the recipe for career fulfilment and vocational success. My gut wanted to work with people’s strengths, and my belief system knew that with a positive and supportive approach, we all have the capacity to live better lives. However, in the 80s, the positive psychology movement was unheard of, and the psychological profession was generally more aligned with the traditional medical model, where the focus was on a client’s struggles, what wasn’t working, and what need to be “fixed”.


How to avoid home envy

Thanks to blogs, TV programs and magazines, property perfection is everywhere we look these days. It can be inspiring, but if we’re not careful, maybe even a little disheartening. How can we ever compete?

Here’s how to avoid going green-eyed with home envy.

Have you ever glanced at a ‘for sale’ sign boasting glossy photos of perfectly decorated rooms, only to find yourself desperately wanting to live there?


How to cope after a burglary or break-in at home

Returning home to a break-in is one of those frightening and violating events we’ve seen on TV, or heard other people talk about; but when our own home is burgled, the emotional aftermath can be even more devastating and unsettling than the loss of precious personal belongings.

"When our home is burgled, the emotional aftermath can be even more devastating and unsettling than the loss of precious personal belongings."


Questions to ask before moving in together

You’ve been dating for a while, it feels so right, and in practical terms, you’d love to have more than just a drawer for your belongings at your Sweetie’s house.

Your mutual love for each other seems clear, but what else do you need to consider before you take the plunge and move in together?

First up, grab your partner by the hand, sit down and make some time to talk about the important and often overlooked issues that can arise when we co-habit with another human being, especially one we love.


How to cope when your parents move in with you

Parents. For some people they are the precious souls who nurtured us, taught us how to ride a bike, helped with homework, took us on holidays, and wiped our tears away.

For others, they didn’t understand us, drove us crazy, and appeared to favour our siblings.

And for many of us they tick all of the aforementioned boxes.


How to have a good relationship with property

Your head spins, you can’t sleep, and your nights are filled with passionate and vivid dreams as you imagine the life you will live together.

But it’s not a new beloved that has your heart pounding, it’s the thought of purchasing that so-called perfect piece of real estate, and the more flooded your emotional state becomes, the less clearly you think about what will probably be the most significant financial purchase of your life.

When we fall in love, our frontal cortex shuts down, leading us to suspend all judgement and criticism, perhaps to increase the likelihood of reproduction and survival of our species.